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Wednesday Jun 26, 2024
Wednesday Jun 26, 2024
Today is part 3, of a 5 part series on daily tools and resources to use to move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery.
These tools can be used to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors, sex addiction, porn addiction, or other.
Many of these tools are created or inspired by Dr. Ted Roberts who created the Conquer Series which we highly recommend. You can purchase this resources or join a group at PureDesire.org
In this episode we discuss creating the 3 circles of sobriety and recovery to further help you define who you want to be, what you non-negotiables are, and what your personal goals are moving forward.
Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Book your free discovery call here:https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Wednesday Jun 19, 2024
Wednesday Jun 19, 2024
Today is part 2, of a 5 part series on daily tools and resources to use to move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery.
These tools can be used to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors, sex addiction, porn addiction, or other.
Many of these tools are created or inspired by Dr. Ted Roberts who created the Conquer Series which we highly recommend. You can purchase this resources or join a group at PureDesire.org
In this episode we discuss the benefits of writing a 10 year letter from the perspective a future, recovered you, as well as creating an emergency kit which is a tool to use for travel, or any time you are feeling tempted to relapse.
We mentioned our previous episode "Best Version of You meditation" if you need assistance with the 10 year letter and you can listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru/id1674653111?i=1000611570008
Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Book your free discovery call here:https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Jun 12, 2024
Wednesday Jun 12, 2024
Today we begin a 5 part series on daily tools and resources to use to move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery. These tools can be used to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors, sex addiction, porn addiction, or other.
In this episode we discuss technology blockers, a daily scales used to begin identifying sobriety risk and recovery status, and the feelings wheel which assists in expanding our vocabulary around our experiences.
Blockers we personally like:
Canopy: https://canopy.us/
Parental controls that come with Iphone
Faster Scale: https://puredesire.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/faster-scale-check-in-2017-1.pdf
Feelings Wheel: https://feelingswheel.com
Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Book your free discovery call here:https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Jun 05, 2024
Wednesday Jun 05, 2024
What is the step by step process to recovery?
What if my husband isn't an addict but there has been some type of infidelity or porn use?
How do we recover our relationship after betrayal?
Today, Kylene and Patrick walk you through the exact steps they recommend couples and individuals take to begin the healing process whether or not it's an addiction.
watch Patrick’s testimony starting at 38:21 https://www.youtube.com/live/rirnsSLaYcw?si=I7aPoJ34MBsL42nD
Where to begin:
For betrayor:
1) Find a CSAT in your local area https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357
2) If that's not possible, find a CSAT or sex addiction therapist or coach that works virtually (here are some starting places)
www.puredesire.org
Additional resources: https://www.drpatrickcarnes.com/getting-help
3) Connect to a local recovery group (we like the conquer group that you can find locally or online both at puredesire.org and soulrefiner.com
4) Read books and listen to recovery podcasts:
RecoverU podcast (Patrick and Me)
Pure Desire podcast
Pure Desire book by Ted Roberts
Clean by Doug Weiss
Unwanted- Jay Stringer
For the betrayed spouse:
1) Connect with a trauma therapist or coach who is familiar with sex addiction and works with betrayal trauma recovery - look for someone who also has trauma processing modalities outside of talk therapy
If you are interested in working with Kylene please click this link and book a free connection call to see if it’s a good fit:
https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
2) Connect with local, or online groups:
Cosa
Sanon
Betrayal and Beyond - puredesire.org
Infidelity survivors anonymous
www.btr.org
3) Ready books and listen to recovery podcasts:
RecoverU podcast (Patrick and Me)
Pure Desire podcast
Intimate Deception. Sheri Keffer
Facing Heartbreak - Stephanie Carnes
RISE- Misty Terrell
Wednesday May 29, 2024
Wednesday May 29, 2024
Saying the words "I am a sex addict", or, "my husband is a sex addict" can feel like some of the scariest, most daunting words you will ever utter. Individuals and couples navigating this landscape carry a lot of shame and part of recovery is processing and working through that shame so that it's no longer something you have to carry with you.
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick share why they believe that telling your story in safe places and with safe people is important and beneficial to your healing.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday May 22, 2024
Wednesday May 22, 2024
How do I know I I should stay in my relationship after discovering my husband is a sex or porn addict? Is it worth the effort?
Deciding if you want to reconcile a relationship after betrayal takes time. In today's episode Kylene and Patrick share their thoughts on how to pursue a healthy life and things to think through when determining if a relationship is, or can be, healthy.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday May 15, 2024
Wednesday May 15, 2024
Today Kylene and Patrick share how certain coaching techniques and exercises have helped them in their own healing journey.
Patrick also answers questions from betrayed partners from his perspective as a sex/porn addict in recovery including:
When did you realize you truly had a problem?
When did you realize you needed assistance from a professional?
How long until you personally felt control over the compulsion?
What did you need most from your spouse during the recovery process?
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday May 08, 2024
Wednesday May 08, 2024
Today Patrick answers questions from betrayed partners from a recovery addicts perspective including:
Is there any point where you think your betrayed partner could not worry about a slip or relapse anymore?
What is it like when your spouse (the betrayed partner) questions you, especially in the beginning of discovery?
Is the polygraph worth doing?
Are there any cons of NOT doing a disclosure for a couple staying together?
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday May 01, 2024
Wednesday May 01, 2024
Have you ever noticed that the addict parter feels great as soon as they get into sobriety but the betrayed partner feels horrible as they fall deeper into the trauma of betrayal?
This is the dichotomy of healing and this is what Kylene and Patrick discuss in today's episode. It's a very real disconnect where one partner feels GREAT while the other partner feels sad, angry, depressed, hopeless, and overwhelmed.
There are a lot of complex emotions that come with this process....let's talk through them in today's episode...
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Apr 24, 2024
Wednesday Apr 24, 2024
Ever feel like you have a complicated brain? Do you feel frustrated with how it works? Kylene can relate. Todays episode is a personal episode where Kylene and Patrick share some recent life updates including her recent diagnosis with ADD, their trip to Greece, OCD, and how they have navigated these experiences together.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Kylene Terhune
Kylene Terhune is the CEO & Founder of the Phoenix Transformation Project where she works as a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner and NLP life coach supporting women who have experienced sexual betrayal trauma.
She helps her clients with a unique, whole body approach that involves the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual aspect of the individual. This work includes functional lab work, nutrition, lifestyle, emotional work, nervous system support and more to assist women in feeling more complete, grounded, safe, independent and confident in their health and in their bodies.
As a successful functional health coach for 6 years Kylene has received additional education in trauma and it’s impact on the body and has additional experience with somatic work and nervous system support, emotional work and habit change.
She also has certifications in NLP, NLP life coaching, QTT and hypnosis and her missions is to guide women as they step into their whole authentic self post betrayal so they can embody their full potential and God given purpose.
Patrick Terhune
Patrick Terhune is graduate of West Point Military Academy and spent 8 years in the army flying Blackhawks and working as a mechanical engineer. Since then he has led a successful career as a plant manager, moving several times until landing in Ohio where he met Kylene. He continues to participate in recovery work himself and now leads several recovery groups locally to support other men in the area.