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3 days ago
In today's episode, Casey shares his personal story navigating pornography addiction, how technology played a significant role in his exposure and development of addiction, and throughout hte episode we discuss several things we can do as a society and as parents to support our children in living porn free lives.
Resources:
Gabb Phones - www.GABB.com
Needed Navigation (book) - https://a.co/d/aEWD7xE
SheRecovery.com - Women’s recovery
Top Gun (book) - https://puredesire.org/shop/top-gun/
Parent Training Course: https://puredesire.org/shop/parent-training-course-equipping-parents-to-have-conversations-with-their-kids-about-sex/
Good Pictures Bad Pictures: https://a.co/d/8tVHwpz
Good pictures Bad Pictures JR.: https://a.co/d/ePArGkG
God Made All of Me: https://a.co/d/cBJujTI
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Mar 05, 2025
Wednesday Mar 05, 2025
In today's episode we answer questions ranging from how we met to how we navigate conflict, and how we help each other through tough times. We have included the questions with a link below in case you would like to use them in a conversation with your partner!
Questions in today's episode: https://tinyurl.com/9kjca7m9
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Feb 26, 2025
Wednesday Feb 26, 2025
It’s always easier to identify negative patterns in someone else. In today’s episode, Kylene shares four common patterns that can show up in both the addicted partner and the betrayed partner — but in different ways:
Qualifying and Comparing
Using Absolutes like “Always” and “Never”
Looking Outward Instead of Inward
Dehumanizing Thoughts or Behaviors
While these patterns may show up very differently, we can all get stuck in them from time to time. In this episode, Kylene discusses healthier, alternative choices you can make to move your healing forward.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Feb 19, 2025
Wednesday Feb 19, 2025
In today's episode, Patrick shares four ways a recovering addict can show up for their betrayed partner while demonstrating consistency, sincerity and healing:
Make an effort to understand
Focus on your own healing
Practice your responses
Don't seek her external validation
We often mention the "Help Her Heal" workbook and encourage you to utilize the exercises within the book while personalizing them for your own relationship. Purchase help her heal here: https://a.co/d/6WvocpH
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Feb 12, 2025
Wednesday Feb 12, 2025
Erin Stretar (pronounced Streeter) shares three powerful tools she recommends to all her clients navigating betrayal recovery in this week’s RecoverU episode.
Discover how journaling, self-soothing techniques, and building a strong support system can empower your healing journey. Erin provides practical tips and real-life applications you can start using today!
Learn more about her work and connect with Erin at estretartherapy.com
As you are setting up your support system, if you have family or friends who want to learn more, we have 2 episodes you can share with them to give them a basic understanding of your experience and what may or may not be helpful to say to you both:
Understanding and Supporting the Betrayed Partner: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/51-understanding-and-supporting-the-betrayed-partner/id1674653111?i=1000646231313
Understanding and supporting the Addict Partner: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/52-understanding-and-supporting-the-addicted-partner/id1674653111?i=1000647371472
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Feb 05, 2025
Wednesday Feb 05, 2025
In this episode, Kylene and Patrick walk through how to use a polygraph (lie detector test) as part of recovery, reconciliation and trust building after betrayal and discovery.
Some questions they answer are:
Why use a polygraph?
How to find a polygrapher
What to look for in a polygrapher- interview questions to consider
Best practices for creating questions to be asked on the polygraph
If you are in Ohio or willing to travel - we recommend Dan Forman for polygraph services: https://www.ohiopolygraphservices.com/about-the-examiner
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Friday Jan 31, 2025
Friday Jan 31, 2025
Congratulations to Patrick on 4 years in recovery! I'm so proud of you.
In this episode, Kylene briefly shares what it feels like to be hitting the 4 year mark of recovery together, and why the intense and purposeful effort they made has truly been worth it.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Jan 29, 2025
Wednesday Jan 29, 2025
Divorce feels similar to being widowed. You've lost your partner, you've lost the life and the future you thought you had, and you experience a significant amount of grief.
Divorce after betrayal can feel isolating and overwhelming. This is why Kim Hansen Petroni has written her workbook: "Not a Casserole Widow" to provide education and cultivate self confidence in betrayed spouses pursuing divorce.
Learn more about divorce after betrayal, and how Not a Casserole Widow can help you feel more empowered and less alone in today's episode.
Connect with Kim: www.notacasserolewidow.com or, https://www.coachinghope4u.com
Buy the book: https://a.co/d/0FvPXuL
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Jan 22, 2025
Wednesday Jan 22, 2025
Life can be stressful on its own, but navigating recovery after addiction and betrayal adds layers of tension, overwhelming emotions, and uncertainty. In today’s episode, Kylene and Patrick explore how the fruits of the Spirit can serve as a powerful self-reflection tool to guide growth and healing in your recovery journey.
By focusing on cultivating love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control, we create a foundation for lasting transformation. Let’s dive into these characteristics and discover how they can support you on your path to recovery.
Join us as we reflect on what it means to live the fruits of the spirit after betrayal.
Galation 5:22-23
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against things like this.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Jan 15, 2025
Wednesday Jan 15, 2025
Is there a difference between sobriety and recovery? Is recovery just a longer version of sobriety?
In this episode of RecoverU Kylene and Patrick share their perspective on the differences between sobriety and recovery and the type of actions and behaviors it takes to move into a life of recovery, and ultimately freedom, after a life of sex or porn addiction!
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Galatians 5:22-23 says, "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control."
3 Circles Recovery Exercise: https://puredesire.org/blog/tools-for-healing-three-circles/
Patrick Carnes 30 steps to Recovery: https://www.kavodrecovery.com/the-30-tasks.html
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Kylene Terhune
Kylene Terhune is the CEO & Founder of the Phoenix Transformation Project where she works as a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner and NLP life coach supporting women who have experienced sexual betrayal trauma.
She helps her clients with a unique, whole body approach that involves the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual aspect of the individual. This work includes functional lab work, nutrition, lifestyle, emotional work, nervous system support and more to assist women in feeling more complete, grounded, safe, independent and confident in their health and in their bodies.
As a successful functional health coach for 6 years Kylene has received additional education in trauma and it’s impact on the body and has additional experience with somatic work and nervous system support, emotional work and habit change.
She also has certifications in NLP, NLP life coaching, QTT and hypnosis and her missions is to guide women as they step into their whole authentic self post betrayal so they can embody their full potential and God given purpose.
Patrick Terhune
Patrick Terhune is graduate of West Point Military Academy and spent 8 years in the army flying Blackhawks and working as a mechanical engineer. Since then he has led a successful career as a plant manager, moving several times until landing in Ohio where he met Kylene. He continues to participate in recovery work himself and now leads several recovery groups locally to support other men in the area.