RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Betrayal Recovery, Porn Addiction Recovery, Relationships, Infidelity

In today's episode, Kylene speaks with Ron Rhea about his book, "The Grounded Liberation Method". They walk through his 10 root method, discussing why mindfulness and connection are important and the gifts that facing your emotions and shadows can offer in life.
 
Grounded Liberation Book: https://books.by/ron-rhea-ii
 
Work with Ron: https://stan.store/TempleBuildingCoaching
 
Follow Ron on IG: @temple.building.coaching
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2 
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
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In today’s episode, Patrick interviews me (Kylene) and asks me questions about my experience as a betrayed partner. 
 
Some things we discuss are:
 
What was discovery like for me
How was I able to express my emotions
What were things that Patrick did that were helpful or hurtful
What do I wish all addicts knew
Why vulnerable conversations are so important
 
And more…
 
 
We hope that this episode both resonates. My story isn’t your story, but I know there are many aspects that may feel similar.
 
One thing I share in this episode is how intensely long, difficult and painful this journey was for me. We can’t sugar coat that reality. But what we also hope to communicate, is that  through the healing process there can be something better on the other side. Whether a couple stays together or goes separate ways, healing offers us an opportunity to create a life we enjoy. 
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8 
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2 
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

We live in a sex saturated world. It's an unfortunate reality that children are getting exposed to inappropriate materials earlier and earlier. As parents, it's our job to guide our children and protect them to the best of our ability.
 
One of the best ways we can do this is by having open and honest conversations with them around sex, sexuality and pornography early, and often. But how can we do this in age appropriate ways?
 
In this episode we are sharing specific concepts and ideas to communicate to your children as well as navigating which types of topics and conversations to have at which ages..
 
We also mentioned several podcast episodes and resources and those are listed below!
 
"Where Modesty Culture Goes Wrong: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000731965520
 
"How to talk to your Kids about sex" https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000668310201
 
 
Books: *As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.*
 
God made all of me: https://amzn.to/4p2msHN 
 
Good pictures bad pictures Jr: https://amzn.to/4p5Mdac
 
Good pictures bad pictures: https://amzn.to/4qSSQhw
 
How to talk to your kids about sex: https://amzn.to/3XiNkHx
 
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: https://amzn.to/47PjQ90
 
Education:
 
The parent training course from pure desire: https://puredesire.org/shop/parent-training-course-equipping-parents-to-have-conversations-with-their-kids-about-sex/
 
 
Kristen Miele’s Sed Ed Reclaimed: https://www.sexedreclaimed
 

This week we are discussing 4 myths (that we think keep people stuck) in the recovery community. 
Patrick and I deeply believe in our mission to bring education and awareness around recovery because we know the freedom in your life that it can bring. 
 
That being said, there are several beliefs in the recovery and faith communities that we see keeping people from reaching their full potential in life. 
 
4 myths we discuss today:
1. Your suffering is holy
2. Anyone who wants to lead a recovery group should (even if they aren't in recovery)
3. Addiction is permanent 
4. Women can't have autonomy in marriage
 
In contrast to the above, we believe in:
1. Personal responsibility and boundaries
2. Lead by example
3. Addiction is reversible and you can achieve full freedom from it
4. Men and women are equal in marriage some we both lead each other in different areas
 
Additional episodes you may like based on todays’ content:
 
Sobriety vs Recovery:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000684064277
 
 
Forgiveness:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000629370575
 
We hope this episode is encouraging and shines a light on the possibilities of true health.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8 
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2 
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In today’s episode, Kylene opens up about her personal healing journey—sharing some of her painful experiences with the church, moments of struggle in her faith, and how finding a safe and supportive community became a crucial part of her recovery.
She also explores the importance of connection—connection to self, to others, and to God—and why cultivating these three areas is essential for betrayed partners on the path to healing.
 
Episodes/Topics mentioned in today's episode:
Self worth vs Self confidence: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000708437532
 
Intrusive Thoughts:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000652006011
 
Kylene's story of divorce: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000643643605
 
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8 
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2 
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

What is it that makes some people successful in sex or porn addiction recovery? There are several key commitments/mindsets/beliefs that all individuals who get into recovery share and we are breaking them down in today's episode. 
 
1. They want recovery (intrinsic motivation)
2. They commit to honesty no matter the cost
3. They are willing to get uncomfortable to the point of sacrifice
4. They Understand it's a long term commitment 
5. If married, they own it and take responsibility for the impact 
 
We notice that everyone who recovers shares these ways of thinking and behaving. If you are a betrayed partner, these are good landmarks to look out for when you are wondering if recovery is real.
 
You may also want to listen to previous episodes:
 
Sobriety vs Recovery (ep 96): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000684064277
 
Choosing your Identity in Recovery (ep 7): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000606456712
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8 
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2 
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Modesty is a good thing right? But what if the messaging around modesty keeps individuals stuck and instead of protecting people, actually causes harm?
 
In today’s episode Kylene and Patrick discuss why they think that the pornography culture and modesty culture have the same end impact —> that is,  communicating that humans are objects.
 
We know this is a sticky topic and one that involves deeply rooted faith culture, personal conviction and more. We encourage you to listen to this episode with open hearts.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8 
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2 
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Today's guest is Kaija Dawn, a relationship coach specializing in sacred intimacy, nervous system regulation, and relationship energetics. 
 
She shares her personal story and together she and Kylene discuss making difficult choices, learning to trust yourself through the process, and feeling vs intellectualizing decisions. 
 
You can find Kaia on Instagram @iamkaijadawn and her podcast: The Woman Behind it All
Listen to the episode where she interviewed Kylene here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/041-repair-boundaries-and-healing-after-betrayal-in/id1770275741?i=1000726891473
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8 
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2 
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

After discovery, a betrayed partner is left trying to make sense of a reality that suddenly feels upside down. Moments and symbols once filled with joy -like wedding photos, anniversaries, rings - can now feel heavy and confusing.
In today’s episode, Kylene and Patrick share their personal approach to some of these difficult moments. They explore the emotions these events bring up from both perspectives, and reflect on the different choices other couples may make as they move through their own recovery journeys.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8 
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2 
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick share several experiences to anticipate as you navigate initial sobriety from porn or sex addiction patterns including:
Dreams and Intrusive Thoughts
Uncomfortable Emotions
Nocturnal Emissions
Alternative coping mechanisms or behaviors 
They discuss the importance of choice through sobriety, how deep recovery means living a life making conscious choices vs falling into the belief that life just happens to you.
 
They also share some basic techniques to help in the moment of stress in order to feel more grounded, become more present, and step into conscious choice.
 
They mentioned the Intrusive Thoughts Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000652006011
 
and the Faster Scale which they discuss in more detail in this episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000658758308
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8 
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2 
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune