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Today’s episode is a speech that Kylene was asked to present about overcoming adversity. She shares some of her own story as well as 3 keys she notices helps her and others move through painful experiences: Value, Clarity and Courage —> Knowing who you are, getting clarity on the future, and having courage to take steps towards it.
She shares these 5 truths:
You are not responsible for the behavior, reactions or thinking of others.
You are responsible for your own behavior - show up with integrity every day - if you can go to bed at the end of the day and say - I did my best - that’s all you can do
Mistakes are ok when we take responsibility for them
You are more than your experiences - in other words, negative things that happen in our lives do not have to become our identity
You are worthy and valuable just as you are - because you exist - and you don’t have to accomplish anything for that statement to be true.
Episode on self confidence vs self worth: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000708437532
Episode with future you meditation: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000611570008
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Jun 04, 2025
Wednesday Jun 04, 2025
In todays episode, Patrick shares his thoughts on 3 important principles for a sex addict to remember in recovery:
It takes time - don’t expect your betrayed partner to recover from discovery quickly. There are many factors that play into their ability to heal and everyone’s relationship and trauma level is different. Healing and relational reconciliation is a lifelong commitment.
Demonstrate consistency so you can create safety for your partner.
Be proactive. Make sure your motivation comes internally - your spouse shouldn’t have to push you to move through your own recovery.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday May 28, 2025
Wednesday May 28, 2025
Sometimes divorce isn’t just admissible, it’s beneficial. When a relationship hinders one or both parties from moving forward in health, divorce may be the best choice.
Kylene and Patrick know that there are many reasons that a couple may struggle with this decision including faith based guilt, internalized people pleasing, financial reasons, children etc… This is an nuanced conversation, and one that a single episode certainly will not cover in its entirety.
We are not here to tell you what to do. Instead, we are sharing some situations where divorce may be the healthiest option (outside of abusive situations which we do not focus on in this episode).
We hope this episode takes the pressure off, lets you take a deep breath and know that if you are heading down the path of divorce, there is nothing wrong with you. A relationship takes TWO people fully committed to work.
If you are listening to this episode and struggling with this decision we are sending you so much love.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday May 21, 2025
Wednesday May 21, 2025
In this episode, Patrick explores the critical role that habits, routines, and daily discipline play in deep, lasting recovery. He emphasizes the value of fully engaging with all the tools and resources available in whatever recovery plan or program you're following. Patrick also shares insights on the power of journaling and the importance of being intentional when replacing old, unhealthy patterns with new, life-giving ones.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday May 14, 2025
Wednesday May 14, 2025
Both the addict in recovery and the betrayed partner may struggle with self confidence, self worth, or both. But are they different?
In this episode, Kylene and Patrick unpack the differences between self-confidence and self-worth, sharing how each has wrestled with these issues in their own lives—Kylene with low self-confidence and Patrick with low self-worth.
They explore how these struggles have shown up in their personal journeys, the healing work they've done, and how anyone can grow in these areas. If you've ever questioned your value or doubted yourself, this episode is for you.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday May 07, 2025
Wednesday May 07, 2025
In this weeks episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss how patterns of thinking and behavior like: compartmentalization, the ability to feel deeply, and being someone who’s able to take action and get things done, can be great strengths in recovery, but those same strengths can also be our weaknesses in a different scenario.
They discuss how understanding our wounds, identifying the filters we view life through, and processing our emotions can help us challenge our own perspective so we can choose the healthy middle.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Apr 30, 2025
Wednesday Apr 30, 2025
Meet Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith. In today’s episode, they share their personal story recovering from sex addiction and betrayal trauma. They share the ups and downs of their recovery and the process of healing they have found to be successful not only for themselves but for hundreds of other couples pursuing reconciliation as well.
Find their book Building True Intimacy here: https://a.co/d/dnwA2rw
Check out their free check-in resource here: https://raabsmithteam.com/free
Interested in their programs? Click here: https://raabsmithteam.com
See the Intimacy Pyramid here: https://intimacypyramid.com
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Apr 23, 2025
Wednesday Apr 23, 2025
In today's episode, Kylene walks through the 5 phases of recovery, common things you may feel or experience in these phases, and how to know if you are moving through them into the next phase. She offers some questions to consider and steps to take in order to continue moving forward in your healing process.
WELCOME to the new RecoverU facebook group - if you are a betrayed partner please join us HERE: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Apr 16, 2025
Wednesday Apr 16, 2025
Show notes:
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick talk about shame, how it hinders recovery and wreaks havoc in relationships, and how you can begin to move through it to release it as part of your recovery journey.
Interested in joining us for Sexual Integrity 101? Register with the link below! Have more questions? Reach out to PatrickATerhune@gmail.com and we would love to answer them :)
SI 101: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSelbTVNK2KEFPCecHhBzF0lXVJw1og_aTb1VJPW-p4XaUrn8g/viewform?usp=sharing
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Apr 09, 2025
Wednesday Apr 09, 2025
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss 3 pieces of advice that are helpful in theory but not in practice when it comes to marriage and reconciliation.
They share how:
Don't control your partner
Marriage is hard
Divorce is not an option
...are often shared with well meaning intent but can actually cause harm and dysfunction in relationships when understood in certain ways.
Interested in joining us for Sexual Integrity 101? Register with the link below! Have more questions? Reach out to PatrickATerhune@gmail.com and we would love to answer them :)
SI 101: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSelbTVNK2KEFPCecHhBzF0lXVJw1og_aTb1VJPW-p4XaUrn8g/viewform?usp=sharing
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Kylene Terhune
Kylene Terhune is the CEO & Founder of the Phoenix Transformation Project where she works as a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner and NLP life coach supporting women who have experienced sexual betrayal trauma.
She helps her clients with a unique, whole body approach that involves the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual aspect of the individual. This work includes functional lab work, nutrition, lifestyle, emotional work, nervous system support and more to assist women in feeling more complete, grounded, safe, independent and confident in their health and in their bodies.
As a successful functional health coach for 6 years Kylene has received additional education in trauma and it’s impact on the body and has additional experience with somatic work and nervous system support, emotional work and habit change.
She also has certifications in NLP, NLP life coaching, QTT and hypnosis and her missions is to guide women as they step into their whole authentic self post betrayal so they can embody their full potential and God given purpose.
Patrick Terhune
Patrick Terhune is graduate of West Point Military Academy and spent 8 years in the army flying Blackhawks and working as a mechanical engineer. Since then he has led a successful career as a plant manager, moving several times until landing in Ohio where he met Kylene. He continues to participate in recovery work himself and now leads several recovery groups locally to support other men in the area.