RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Betrayal Recovery, Porn Addiction Recovery, Relationships, Infidelity

Feeling stuck and not sure how to move forward? 
 
In today’s episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss choosing who you want to be so you don’t stay stuck in 2025.
 
They provide five practical tips and actionable resources to help you align with your values and vision for the future. Their approach emphasizes digging deeper than surface-level goals, empowering you to define your identity and who you want to become as you move forward.
 
 
List of core values: https://simplish.co/blog/core-values-list
 
Visioneering book by Andy Stanley: https://a.co/d/5ew37Np
 
 
Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Book your free discovery call here:https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Do you feel discouraged in your recovery journey? We encourage you to take some time to reflect on the past year. Often, when we feel stuck or frustrated, if we compare where we are today to where we were 6 months ago, or a year ago, we have a better perspective of how far we've truly come! 
the end of the year offers us a natural point to review what we have accomplished in the past year while also considering where I want to continue focusing for future growth.
Listen to this episode for some prompts to help you get started.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Do you and your partner feel LESS connected when things get busy? Do you notice that you have less time for each other and fewer conversations?
Communication is a top priority during recovery and we want to encourage you to prioritize it MORE when you're busy, tired or stressed instead of less.
When we get busy and communicate less, it becomes a breeding ground for disconnection as we try to process thoughts and emotions on our own.
While these connection points don't need to take much time, and they don't even need to be focused around recovery topics, we DO encourage that you set aside time to talk.
Today's episode offers quick questions for you to sit down and discuss with your partner - holiday themed!
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Are you a people pleaser? Saying NO is hard, and we can feel extra pressure around the holidays.
 
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick offer 3, succinct and specific ways to politely decline invitations if you need some extra down time for recovery.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Discovery is one of the most stressful experiences for both the sex/porn addict and the betrayed partner. Stress takes a significant toll on the body in this episode Kylene breaks down how stress impacts the body and 3 specific pillars of support we can bring in to support our mental and physical health through recovery.
Kylene has some links below with recommended supplements to consider * Please always check with your own medical practitioner to confirm that these are safe for you to use, especially if you have any pre-existing medical conditions or medications you are taking:
For the addict: https://us.fullscript.com/plans/kylenet-addiction-recovery-support
For the betrayed partner: https://us.fullscript.com/plans/kylenet-betrayal-recovery-support
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Are you a betrayed partner who has asked the question - how could my husband engage in such hurtful behaviors and still love me? If so, you're not alone!
In this episode Kylene and Patrick talk about how this questions is really a form of communicating the pain that has been caused, the feelings of insecurity, the fear of comparison, and the reiteration of negative self beliefs for the partner.
They also walk through understanding addiction was they begin to answer the question - how can these two things be true that my partner hurt me but loves me?
This episode is for both the recovering addict AND the betrayed partner. While the question is from the betrayed partner side, this episode can also help the recovering addict more deeply empathize with his partners experience.
 
SAST test: https://psychology-tools.com/test/sast
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Are you stuck in an anxiety loop after betrayal? If so, you are NOT alone. Anxiety is one of the primary emotions that surface after discovering your husband is a sex or porn addict.
 
Not sure if you feel anxious? In this episode Kylene and Patrick break down some signs and symptoms of anxiety, why safety is important, and how we can support our healing.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

My husband CHEATED - so it's ok to be angry right?
I'm so ANGRY and I just can't get over it. I will never get over it.
I'm not allowed to be angry - it's a sin.
 
Anger is a natural emotion and an important feeling to be respected and acknowledged. However, when left unchecked it can turn into bitterness and it can begin to take control of your life as it not only hurts the person your anger is directed towards, but begins to hurt you as well.
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss when anger is healthy, when it's not, and health ways to assist anger as it moves through so you can step into deeper healing on the other side.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

I can do this on my own!
They hurt me, therefore I can hurt them.
Porn isn't infidelity! 
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick address these 3 lies. Both recovering addicts and betrayed partners can get caught up in these beliefs and it can dramatically impact long term healing.
Let's shift these beliefs together to find deep, long lasting freedom.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Are you a recovering sex/porn addict who is frustrated that your spouse still has questions about your previous behavior? Or maybe you are a betrayed spouse who has brought up a trigger only to be replied to with "when will you get over this? Why is this still coming up for you?"
All couples navigating recovery long for the day when they will never think about it ever again. Unfortunately, that's not the reality of trauma.
In todays' episode Kylene and Patrick discuss what long term recovery looks like for a couple and what making amends truly means for the partner who has engaged in the betrayal.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune