RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Betrayal Recovery, Porn Addiction Recovery, Relationships, Infidelity

How can I connect more deeply with my partner - especially after betrayal?
Communication is the foundation for life long intimacy and growth with your partner. AND it happens to be one of the top struggles most couples have.
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick suggest 4 questions to discuss with your partner to open conversation and to connect more deeply and give examples as they personally answer the questions together.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

INTIMACY? or sex? Are they the same? How can you reconnect intimately with your partner if they have hurt you in the past?
For many partners, true intimacy (into -me-you-see) is first established through the recovery journey as they learn new skills for communication, trust, empathy and connection together.
Intimacy requires safety and sex addiction is an intimacy disorder - so how in the world do we connect after betrayal?
In today's episode, we discuss 5 reasons sex and intimacy can be difficult and what can help us move through this process to connect more deeply as we heal.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

What is empathy? At its core, it's the ability to understand someone else's experience and perspective. When a couple chooses to stay together, empathy is a critical skill for both individuals to learn. YES it's learnable! We must practice things that don't come naturally before they become second nature.
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss what empathy is, why is important fro the recovering sex addict to empathize with the trauma his partner is going through, and why it's just as important for the betrayed partner to empathize with the addicts experiences, and of course, how can you express empathy?
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Betrayal HURTS and it feels overwhelming.
Today, Kylene answers some of the most common questions a betrayed partner may have after discovering that her husband is a sex or porn addict.
Questions like:
Is it possible to heal and if so, HOW?
What does the process of reconciliation look like?
How long does recovery take? Can I speed it up?
What do I do about triggers?
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Forgiveness after betrayal? What keeps us stuck from moving forward with forgiveness?
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick define forgiveness, discuss different types of forgiveness, and what might keep us stuck from moving forward with forgiveness. 
Is it always appropriate to forgive? Or is there a right time? Do I always have to tell the person who hurt me that I forgive them? Join us in today's episode as we break it down.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Is it possible for GOOD to come from all the pain of sex addiction and betrayal trauma? 
 
Nick and Michelle Stumbo are examples of how good CAN come from the pain we have experienced. A former pastor and now head of Pure Desire ministries, Nick shares his personal story of transformation along with his wife Michelle who talks about what it was like being married to a pastor and feeling like she had to keep all of this to herself at the time.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

How do we navigate conversations about sex with our children? 
Whether you are a couple going through recovery after betrayal and sex addiction, or you are just parents trying to raise healthy kids, healthy sexuality is something they should learn about from you. But it's often a very uncomfortable topic for many of us and we just don't know how to bring it up in safe and healthy ways.
Rodney and Traci Wright recommend that parents have many small conversations with our children around this topic to better prepare them for their life experiences, to create safety in the relationship with you, and to let them know they can always come to you with questions. 
 
If you have children you won't want to miss this episode! 
 
Check out their book for more support: How to Talk to Your Kids about Sex here: https://puredesire.org/shop/how-to-talk-with-your-kids-about-sex/
 
 
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

What does it feel like to discover your husband is a sex/porn addict without any warning? How do you navigate those first few months?
 
In today's episode, Patrick asks Kylene questions about her experience including:
What was going through your head the first 2 weeks after discovery?
What seemed to help the first few weeks/months?
What behaviors from (Patrick) did you find helpful?
What gave you strength through this?
When did you feel most vulnerable?
 
If you are a betrayed partner, you may related to how Kylene describes her experience. If you are a sex/porn addict moving through recovery, you may gain a deeper understanding about how the betrayed partner thinks and feels through this process.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Can a spouse recovery from betrayal? Can an addict recovery? Can we actually live healthy lives?
These are some of the questions Kylene's client Katherine* experienced after discovering her husband was hiding a secret sex addiction.
After doing some of their own work and then coming to Kylene for continued healing work, Katherine is here today to share their story of redemption and healing.
Their story is inspirational, I know you will find encouragement in this episode! 
*Names changes for anonymity
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

HOW do I make a decision about my marriage after betrayal? I feel stuck? 
 
After we have experienced the pain of betrayal, it's normal to feel scared and overwhelmed. Kylene walks you through some things to think through as you work through this decision as she normalizes the ups and downs of the recovery and reconciliation process.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune