RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Betrayal Recovery, Porn Addiction Recovery, Relationships, Infidelity

Can I just read books, listen to podcasts, and navigate recovery by myself?
Humans are designed for connection and community is often what helps us feel more grounded, more safe, more secure, and it even has positive benefits for our mental health. All things that ultimately benefit recovery whether you are a betrayed spouse recovering from the trauma of discovery, or a partner navigating recovery from sex/porn addiction.
In today's episode, one of Patricks personal mentors joins us on the podcast as we discuss the importance of connection and mentorship through this journey.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Betrayal is incredibly traumatic and painful. Recovery as an addict means feeling difficult emotions. When a couple commits to the process, will it ever be worth it?
 
Today, Kylene and Patrick share some of the benefits they have experienced by really committing to recovery every step of the way and how facing your fears can ultimately provide some of the best growth you experience in life.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

What does it look like to CHOOSE healing?
What does it look like to express empathy to your partner?
 
Patrick answers these questions and shares why choosing healing and expressing empath  to your betrayed partner is important as part of your recovery journey. 
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Working through recovery as a sex or porn addict can feel overwhelming, especially at first. You might wonder, can I DO this? Can I ever be truly free?
 
Today, Patrick shares 5 healthy mindsets to help you succeed through recovery!
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

This is part 5 of a series where we share tools and resources to support you as you move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery.
 
These tools can be used to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors, sex addiction, porn addiction, or other.
 
In this episode we discuss how and why group support and 1:1 coaching or therapy is so helpful for both the betrayed partner and the addict to experience deeper healing.
 
1) Find a CSAT in your local area https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357
 
2) If that's not possible, find a CSAT or sex addiction therapist or coach that works virtually (here are some starting places)
www.puredesire.org
Additional resources: https://www.drpatrickcarnes.com/getting-help
 
3) Connect to a local recovery group (we like the conquer group that you can find locally or online both at puredesire.org and soulrefiner.com
 
 
For the betrayed spouse:
 
1) Connect with a trauma therapist or coach who is familiar with sex addiction and works with betrayal trauma recovery  - look for someone who also has trauma processing modalities outside of talk therapy
 
If you are interested in working with Kylene please click this link and book a free connection call to see if it’s a good fit:
 
https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
2) Connect with local, or online groups:
Cosa
Sanon
Betrayal and Beyond - puredesire.org
Infidelity survivors anonymous
www.btr.org
 
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

Today is part 4, of a  5 part series on daily tools and resources to use to move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery. 
 
These tools can be used to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors, sex addiction, porn addiction, or other.
 
 
In this episode we discuss the benefits of journaling, how it helps bring awareness to patterns, assists in recovery, and benefits long term health.
 
5 year journal: https://www.levenger.com/products/5-year-journal?variant=42537377136789&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwpZWzBhC0ARIsACvjWRPLxW3dd9gRHKOhIMUvdJJ-Q-JuSmVDLe1ShxmyVT2Hckvo5LYVR8kaAm-hEALw_wcB
 
Daily Kairos Journal: https://dailykairos.com
 
The First Hour Journal: https://www.thefirsthour.com
 
 
Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Book your free discovery call here:https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
 

Today is part 3, of a  5 part series on daily tools and resources to use to move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery.
 
 
These tools can be used to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors, sex addiction, porn addiction, or other.
 
 
Many of these tools are created or inspired by Dr. Ted Roberts who created the Conquer Series which we highly recommend. You can purchase this resources or join a group at PureDesire.org 
 
In this episode we discuss creating the 3 circles of sobriety and recovery to further help you define who you want to be, what you non-negotiables are, and what your personal goals are moving forward.
 
Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Book your free discovery call here:https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

Today is part 2, of a  5 part series on daily tools and resources to use to move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery.
 
These tools can be used to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors, sex addiction, porn addiction, or other.
 
Many of these tools are created or inspired by Dr. Ted Roberts who created the Conquer Series which we highly recommend. You can purchase this resources or join a group at PureDesire.org 
 
In this episode we discuss the benefits of writing a 10 year letter from the perspective a future, recovered you, as well as creating an emergency kit which is a tool to use for travel, or any time you are feeling tempted to relapse.
 
We mentioned our previous episode "Best Version of You meditation" if you need assistance with the 10 year letter and you can listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru/id1674653111?i=1000611570008 
 
 
Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Book your free discovery call here:https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
 
 
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune 
 

Today we begin a 5 part series on daily tools and resources to use to move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery. These tools can be used to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors, sex addiction, porn addiction, or other.
 
In this episode we discuss technology blockers, a daily scales used to begin identifying sobriety risk and recovery status, and the feelings wheel which assists in expanding our vocabulary around our experiences.
 
Blockers we personally like:
Canopy: https://canopy.us/
Parental controls that come with Iphone
 
Faster Scale:  https://puredesire.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/faster-scale-check-in-2017-1.pdf
 
Feelings Wheel: https://feelingswheel.com
 
Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Book your free discovery call here:https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
 
 
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

What is the step by step process to recovery?
What if my husband isn't an addict but there has been some type of infidelity or porn use?
How do we recover our relationship after betrayal?
Today, Kylene and Patrick walk you through the exact steps they recommend couples and individuals take to begin the healing process whether or not it's an addiction.
 
watch Patrick’s testimony starting at 38:21 https://www.youtube.com/live/rirnsSLaYcw?si=I7aPoJ34MBsL42nD
 
Where to begin:
 
For betrayor:
 
1) Find a CSAT in your local area https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357
 
2) If that's not possible, find a CSAT or sex addiction therapist or coach that works virtually (here are some starting places)
 
www.puredesire.org
 
Additional resources: https://www.drpatrickcarnes.com/getting-help
 
3) Connect to a local recovery group (we like the conquer group that you can find locally or online both at puredesire.org and soulrefiner.com
 
4) Read books and listen to recovery podcasts:
RecoverU podcast (Patrick and Me)
Pure Desire podcast
Pure Desire book by Ted Roberts
Clean by Doug Weiss
Unwanted- Jay Stringer
 
 
For the betrayed spouse:
 
1) Connect with a trauma therapist or coach who is familiar with sex addiction and works with betrayal trauma recovery  - look for someone who also has trauma processing modalities outside of talk therapy
 
If you are interested in working with Kylene please click this link and book a free connection call to see if it’s a good fit:
 
https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
 
 
2) Connect with local, or online groups:
Cosa
Sanon
Betrayal and Beyond - puredesire.org
Infidelity survivors anonymous
www.btr.org
 
3) Ready books and listen to recovery podcasts:
RecoverU podcast (Patrick and Me)
Pure Desire podcast
Intimate Deception. Sheri Keffer
Facing Heartbreak - Stephanie Carnes
RISE- Misty Terrell