RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Betrayal Recovery, Porn Addiction Recovery, Relationships, Infidelity

Saying the words "I am a sex addict", or, "my husband is a sex addict" can feel like some of the scariest, most daunting words you will ever utter. Individuals and couples navigating this landscape carry a lot of shame and part of recovery is processing and working through that shame so that it's no longer something you have to carry with you.
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick share why they believe that telling your story in safe places and with safe people is important and beneficial to your healing.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

How do I know I I should stay in my relationship after discovering my husband is a sex or porn addict? Is it worth the effort? 
Deciding if you want to reconcile a relationship after betrayal takes time. In today's episode Kylene and Patrick share their thoughts on how to pursue a healthy life and things to think through when determining if a relationship is, or can be, healthy.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Today Kylene and Patrick share how certain coaching techniques and exercises have helped them in their own healing journey.
Patrick also answers questions from betrayed partners from his perspective as a sex/porn addict in recovery including:
When did you realize you truly had a problem?
When did you realize you needed assistance from a professional?
How long until you personally felt control over the compulsion?
What did you need most from your spouse during the recovery process?
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Today Patrick answers questions from betrayed partners from a recovery addicts perspective including:
Is there any point where you think your betrayed partner could not worry about a slip or relapse anymore?
What is it like when your spouse (the betrayed partner) questions you, especially in the beginning of discovery?
Is the polygraph worth doing?
Are there any cons of NOT doing a disclosure for a couple staying together?
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Have you ever noticed that the addict parter feels great as soon as they get into sobriety but the betrayed partner feels horrible as they fall deeper into the trauma of betrayal?
This is the dichotomy of healing and this is what Kylene and Patrick discuss in today's episode. It's a very real disconnect where one partner feels GREAT while the other partner feels sad, angry, depressed, hopeless, and overwhelmed. 
There are a lot of complex emotions that come with this process....let's talk through them in today's episode...
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Ever feel like you have a complicated brain? Do you feel frustrated with how it works? Kylene can relate. Todays episode is a personal episode where Kylene and Patrick share some recent life updates including her recent diagnosis with ADD, their trip to Greece, OCD, and how they have navigated these experiences together.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

What is parts work? And how does it impact my recovery journey? Parts work (alternatively called internal family systems) is an approach that helps individuals identify parts of themselves (whether they are positive or negative) with compassion.
Parts work offers a safe way to communicate on a subconscious level so that we can help our parts behave in healthy ways instead of acting our in unhealthy ways.
 
Kylene connects with some of her friends and colleagues to discuss how parts work has impact them or their clients in positive ways. 
Follow Sophie on IG @shetalkshealth
Podcast: SheTalksHealth
Follow Megan on IG @itsmeganbarrett
Podcast: Redeeming Roots Podcast
 
Follow Carly on IG @carlyinfocus
 
 
 
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Have you ever experienced intrusive thoughts? Do you feel guilty or like a bad person because you ruminate on things that go against your moral beliefs and you can't find a way out of this mental cycle?
 
Lily Sais is a former school psychologist who now coaches people how to recover from OCD, anxiety, panic and intrusive thoughts to live a life filled with mental health.
 
She shares the truth about intrusive thoughts and how you can experience FREEDOM from them when you understand where they come from and what they do (and don't!) mean about you!
 
Follower her on IG: @_peacefromwithin
Tiktok: @peacefromwithin
 
Take advantage of her FREE intrusive thoughts master class to learn more: https://youtu.be/XtT5MrsgSbU?si=hBGzk9xPW0SnQy7A
 
Learn more and work with Lily in her Peace From Within Community:: https://peace-from-within.circle.so/checkout/peace-from-within-community-membership
 
 
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
 
 

Are you feeling stuck in your healing? Or maybe you are beginning to identify unhealthy patterns in your relationship as you navigate recovery and begin to dig more deeply into through patterns and emotions.
 
In todays episode, Kylene and Patrick tackle 5 common lies that we are prone to believe and then share the TRUTHS that will set you free!
 
1. Telling the truth will hurt my spouse more than my secrets 
2.Sex is a need 
3. If I’ve forgiven or committed towards reconciliation it means we can’t talk about it anymore
4.Porn isn’t the same as an affair (addicted uses it as an excuse, betrayed feels stuck in pain - both feel the need to qualify) 
5. Sex is how I connect with my partner 
 
Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging. 
 
Podcast episode from Conversations with Dr Jennifer: Engage in the Process part 2: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/conversations-with-dr-jennifer/id1479472319?i=1000526284277
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Amanda Testa is a sex and relationship coach who also supported Kylene own her journey through recovery. 
 
In this episode Amanda shares her gentle, trauma informed approach to support individuals through their uncomfortable relationships with sex and sexuality. 
 
Connect with Amanda at www.amandatesta.comPodcast: www.amandatesta.com/podcast/Free Gift: www.amandatesta.com/thegoods/
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
 
 
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune