RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Betrayal Recovery, Porn Addiction Recovery, Relationships, Infidelity

Is the idea of sex after betrayal scary? Or does sex feel ok, but looking into each others eyes feels to scary or intimate?
Sex is a topic that is bound to come up when a couple is working through reconciliation and recovery from sex/porn addiction and betrayal trauma.
In today's episode Kylene and Patrick vulnerably share their own story fore-establishing intimacy, how traumatic being physically vulnerable was for Kylene, and how they set up intentional intimacy trauma exercises to rebuild that connection in a slow, safe way.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

What does sex after betrayal and sex/porn addiction look like? 
There are so many things to consider as a couple navigating recovery and reconciliation and when you are addressing sex and porn addiction the topic of sex and intimacy is bound to come up! 
In todays episode, Kylene and Patrick break down some thoughts, recommendations and things to consider the first year of recovery around sex and intimacy together.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

How will I ever be able to trust again after my partner lied and manipulated to the point where I had no idea?
Kylene and Patrick discuss what intakes to re-establish trust after betrayal and cover topics like honesty, consistency, disclosure, and both individuals committing to and investing in their own healing work.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Does sex addiction mean they are a sex offender? Will he cheat again? Is he a horrible person?
Many friends and family members struggle understand what sex addiction is, and how they can support a family member who is choosing recovery.
This episode is designed to be sent to friends and family who want to learn more about the reality of addiction and recovery look like. 
We offer several practical ways to support the recovering addict, and a few things to avoid saying that may be unhelpful.
We hope this episode is helpful and we THANK YOU for listening - as a supportive friend or family ember, you make a HUGE difference the life of the individual who sent this your way.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
 
 
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

We often don't understand something until we have hands on experience. With betrayal trauma, kind, loving family members and friends may not fully understand the depth of. the paint betrayed partner is feeling. Or, they may have an idea of the level of pain experienced, but not really know how to support them effectively.
This episode is designed to be sent to friends and family who want to learn more about the realities of what a betrayed partner feels and experiences after discovering that their spouse is a porn or sex addict. 
We offer several practical ways to support the hurting spouse, and a few things to avoid saying that may be hurtful.
We hope this episode is helpful and we THANK YOU for listening - as a supportive friend or family ember, you make a HUGE difference the life of the individual who sent this your way.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Navigating holidays, romantic dates, and really any significant date or experience the first year of recovery can be so tough. How can we navigate romantic holidays and especially valentines day and anniversaries is a common question you might be facing.
 
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick offer 3 suggestions for ways you might choose to celebrate days like Valentines day after you've discovered betrayal due to sex/porn addiction in your relationship.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

What is my responsibility as the betrayed partner and as a believer to confront my husband about his porn use?
This is a question Kylene received in her RecoverU Facebook group for betrayed partners.
Patrick and Kylene answer this questions and Patrick shares his perspective about hitting the 3 year in recovery milestone.
 
Resources from todays episode:
Books: 
The Great Sex Rescue: https://a.co/d/dDTq7dp
So You are a Believer: https://a.co/d/2MxGpVf
Untwisting Scriptures: https://a.co/d/bGeJGFc
Untwisting Scriptures Patriarchy & Authority: https://a.co/d/8bsaDEn
 
Resources for freedom from porn and sex addiction:
www.soulrefiner.com
www.puredesire.org
 
Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Click this link: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Free FB group for betrayed wives:  www.facebook.com/groups/RecoverU

How do I know when to stay or when to go? Is divorce the end of the world? Should I reconcile with my partner? How do I know what the "right" decision is?
 
In today's episode Kylene shares her personal story as two examples of when  divorce was absolutely healthy and why, and when reconciliation was healthy and why. She hopes that by sharing her personal story and by breaking it down for each relationship (one that ended in divorce and one that stayed together) that this may help you more clearly articulate these answers for yourself!
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Can I trust someone who has cheated on me? 
Honesty is one of the biggest sticking points for a betrayed partner - its absolutely necessary in order to rebuild trust and safety in a relationship.
Honesty requires personal conviction order to "stick". Someone has to personally believe and accept that it's really important in order to change their behavior if they have a history of deceitful behavior.
Is this possible? Absolutely! 
If you want a healthy, reconciled and repaired relationship, honestly and integrity go both ways. There shouldn't be any secrets between life long partners.
Listen to todays episode for Kylene and Patricks personal experiences and thoughts on honesty.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Have you ever noticed you can feel "off" around someone? Or maybe it's more noticeable when you spend time with someone you gives you energy...
Humans emit different frequencies, so that "vibe" you get from people is a real thing! Authenticity is the most powerful and most attractive frequency humans emit. And this happens when the inside matches the outside. When what we say and think matches what we do. 
Recovery from sex/porn addiction and betrayal trauma is so more than accomplishing sobriety and no longer having triggers every day. Recovery helps us learn the and skills we need in life to live in authenticity. We get to step into lives of integrity as we heal.
Jump into this episode to lear more!
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune