RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Betrayal Recovery, Porn Addiction Recovery, Relationships, Infidelity

Have you been wounded by your pastor or church after you went to share your story of discovery? Has someone said something insensitive to you and your gut told you "this isn't right" but you felt conflicted because it came from someone inside the church?
In today's episode, Kylene walks you through several truths that most churches won't tell you when you walk into their office and ask for support after discovering your husband is a sex or porn addict.
Kylene wants to empower in your faith as well as in your recovery by openly discussing the things you need to know after discovery.
For a PDF copy of 10 things the church won't tell you about pornography click here: https://mailchi.mp/2e8ade60994f/ebook
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
 

Do Kylene and Patrick have the perfect relationship? Are couples in recovery always happy?
In today's episode Kylene and Patrick open up to share some of the struggles they still have as they continue to navigate the day to day reality of recovery after betrayal.
While sharing personal stories and examples, they also share the self reflection, the frustration of putting in so much work only to hit a bump in the road, and remembering that your ultimate happiness shouldn't be completely dependent on your spouse. 
They share how conflict can help you level up, and the lessons they learn as they move through these experiences together.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
 
For partner betrayal resources including: 
 
The What's Next course for betrayed spouses right after discovery
The Phoenix Transformation course for betrayed partners looking for 1:1 emotional processing, coaching and trauma work (Kylene currently only works with women)
"10 things most churches won't tell you when your husband is looking at pornography" 
 
click this link: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
 
 
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

What the heck is human design and how can it possibly relate to recovery?
Human Design is a tool to help you understand yourself and those around you better. In this episode Megan specifically shares how understanding your human design and that of your partner can help you communicate more effectively!
To connect with Megan please follow her on IG @itsMeganBarrett
If you would like to watch her free training: How to break through fear, doubt and worry using your unique human design click here: redemingrootscoaching.com/training
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Is it possible to love my spouse after betrayal? Can we have a marriage that is happy and healthy again after sex/porn addiction and all the pain he's put me through?
In this episode, Kylene shares the deep pain she experienced when she felt the spiritual disconnection form Patrick after betrayal and her personal journey with the question is falling in love again possible after you go through all of this?
She and Patrick discuss their journey of reconnection while navigating the reality of betrayal and recovery together.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

What role does my faith play in my recovery journey? Can depending on my faith as the only resource actually hinder my long term recovery?
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss the concept of spiritual bypassing which is the idea that someone uses spirituality and faith to bypass deeper work required for transformative healing.
As Christians, Kylene and Patrick believe that God often uses faith in combination with tools, resources and community on earth to effectively transform the heart and mind of the individual. 
Learn how inadvertently avoiding this work might damage recovery in this episode! 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Do you ever feel like you can't seem to communicate your thoughts effectively to your spouse? Or maybe, you think you communicate well, but feel frustrated that they can't seem to understand you or hear what you're saying?
Communication is one of the primary struggles that married couples have. This disconnect can be amplified tremendously after betrayal when pain and emotions are high.
Today's episode is part 2 of Kylene and Patrick sharing tips that are immediately applicable for you and your partner to begin improving your communication TODAY!
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Do you ever feel like you can't seem to communicate your thoughts effectively to your spouse? Or maybe, you think you communicate well, but feel frustrated that they can't seem to understand you or hear what you're saying?
Communication is one of the primary struggles that married couples have. This disconnect can be amplified tremendously after betrayal when pain and emotions are high.
Today's episode is part 1 of Kylene and Patrick sharing tips that are immediately applicable for you and your partner to begin improving your communication TODAY!
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Every betrayed partner and every addict is filled with questions at the beginning of their recovery. In todays episode, Kylene and Patrick answer the following questions:
From the betrayed:
How can my husband do this to me?
How can I trust again?
How do I know if I should leave or stay?
How do I deal with trauma brain, brain fog, and emotional triggers?
 
From the addict:
Why does it take the addict 2-5 years to heal?
Why should an addict see a therapist?
Why is my betrayed partner upset with me when I'm in sobriety?
Why should I prioritize group support?
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Is conflict healthy? How canI communicate my emotions without crossing a line?
Recovery for both the addict and the betrayed partner is filled with uncomfortable, big and potentially overwhelming emotions.
 
In today's episode, Patrick and Kylene share about parts work, a coaching and therapeutic modality that helps us communicate safely with our emotions.
In this episode they discuss how you are only responsible for your behavior, not the emotional response of others, and how initially learning to feel emotions might make life harder initially, but ultimately creates a deeper and healthier life in recovery.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Who are the people behind the podcast mics? Today's episode is a little get-to-know-you of our podcast hosts Kylene and Patrick Terhune.
Kylene shares how OCD and ADD impact her brain and her life and how some of the coaching training she received really helped her own personal healing.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune