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Wednesday Nov 06, 2024
Wednesday Nov 06, 2024
My husband CHEATED - so it's ok to be angry right?
I'm so ANGRY and I just can't get over it. I will never get over it.
I'm not allowed to be angry - it's a sin.
Anger is a natural emotion and an important feeling to be respected and acknowledged. However, when left unchecked it can turn into bitterness and it can begin to take control of your life as it not only hurts the person your anger is directed towards, but begins to hurt you as well.
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss when anger is healthy, when it's not, and health ways to assist anger as it moves through so you can step into deeper healing on the other side.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
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Wednesday Oct 30, 2024
Wednesday Oct 30, 2024
I can do this on my own!
They hurt me, therefore I can hurt them.
Porn isn't infidelity!
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick address these 3 lies. Both recovering addicts and betrayed partners can get caught up in these beliefs and it can dramatically impact long term healing.
Let's shift these beliefs together to find deep, long lasting freedom.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Oct 23, 2024
Wednesday Oct 23, 2024
Are you a recovering sex/porn addict who is frustrated that your spouse still has questions about your previous behavior? Or maybe you are a betrayed spouse who has brought up a trigger only to be replied to with "when will you get over this? Why is this still coming up for you?"
All couples navigating recovery long for the day when they will never think about it ever again. Unfortunately, that's not the reality of trauma.
In todays' episode Kylene and Patrick discuss what long term recovery looks like for a couple and what making amends truly means for the partner who has engaged in the betrayal.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Oct 16, 2024
Wednesday Oct 16, 2024
How can I connect more deeply with my partner - especially after betrayal?
Communication is the foundation for life long intimacy and growth with your partner. AND it happens to be one of the top struggles most couples have.
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick suggest 4 questions to discuss with your partner to open conversation and to connect more deeply and give examples as they personally answer the questions together.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Oct 09, 2024
Wednesday Oct 09, 2024
INTIMACY? or sex? Are they the same? How can you reconnect intimately with your partner if they have hurt you in the past?
For many partners, true intimacy (into -me-you-see) is first established through the recovery journey as they learn new skills for communication, trust, empathy and connection together.
Intimacy requires safety and sex addiction is an intimacy disorder - so how in the world do we connect after betrayal?
In today's episode, we discuss 5 reasons sex and intimacy can be difficult and what can help us move through this process to connect more deeply as we heal.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Oct 02, 2024
Wednesday Oct 02, 2024
What is empathy? At its core, it's the ability to understand someone else's experience and perspective. When a couple chooses to stay together, empathy is a critical skill for both individuals to learn. YES it's learnable! We must practice things that don't come naturally before they become second nature.
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss what empathy is, why is important fro the recovering sex addict to empathize with the trauma his partner is going through, and why it's just as important for the betrayed partner to empathize with the addicts experiences, and of course, how can you express empathy?
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Sep 25, 2024
Wednesday Sep 25, 2024
Betrayal HURTS and it feels overwhelming.
Today, Kylene answers some of the most common questions a betrayed partner may have after discovering that her husband is a sex or porn addict.
Questions like:
Is it possible to heal and if so, HOW?
What does the process of reconciliation look like?
How long does recovery take? Can I speed it up?
What do I do about triggers?
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Sep 18, 2024
Wednesday Sep 18, 2024
Forgiveness after betrayal? What keeps us stuck from moving forward with forgiveness?
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick define forgiveness, discuss different types of forgiveness, and what might keep us stuck from moving forward with forgiveness.
Is it always appropriate to forgive? Or is there a right time? Do I always have to tell the person who hurt me that I forgive them? Join us in today's episode as we break it down.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Sep 11, 2024
Wednesday Sep 11, 2024
Is it possible for GOOD to come from all the pain of sex addiction and betrayal trauma?
Nick and Michelle Stumbo are examples of how good CAN come from the pain we have experienced. A former pastor and now head of Pure Desire ministries, Nick shares his personal story of transformation along with his wife Michelle who talks about what it was like being married to a pastor and feeling like she had to keep all of this to herself at the time.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Sep 04, 2024
Wednesday Sep 04, 2024
How do we navigate conversations about sex with our children?
Whether you are a couple going through recovery after betrayal and sex addiction, or you are just parents trying to raise healthy kids, healthy sexuality is something they should learn about from you. But it's often a very uncomfortable topic for many of us and we just don't know how to bring it up in safe and healthy ways.
Rodney and Traci Wright recommend that parents have many small conversations with our children around this topic to better prepare them for their life experiences, to create safety in the relationship with you, and to let them know they can always come to you with questions.
If you have children you won't want to miss this episode!
Check out their book for more support: How to Talk to Your Kids about Sex here: https://puredesire.org/shop/how-to-talk-with-your-kids-about-sex/
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Kylene Terhune
Kylene Terhune is the CEO & Founder of the Phoenix Transformation Project where she works as a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner and NLP life coach supporting women who have experienced sexual betrayal trauma.
She helps her clients with a unique, whole body approach that involves the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual aspect of the individual. This work includes functional lab work, nutrition, lifestyle, emotional work, nervous system support and more to assist women in feeling more complete, grounded, safe, independent and confident in their health and in their bodies.
As a successful functional health coach for 6 years Kylene has received additional education in trauma and it’s impact on the body and has additional experience with somatic work and nervous system support, emotional work and habit change.
She also has certifications in NLP, NLP life coaching, QTT and hypnosis and her missions is to guide women as they step into their whole authentic self post betrayal so they can embody their full potential and God given purpose.
Patrick Terhune
Patrick Terhune is graduate of West Point Military Academy and spent 8 years in the army flying Blackhawks and working as a mechanical engineer. Since then he has led a successful career as a plant manager, moving several times until landing in Ohio where he met Kylene. He continues to participate in recovery work himself and now leads several recovery groups locally to support other men in the area.