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Wednesday Aug 28, 2024
Wednesday Aug 28, 2024
What does it feel like to discover your husband is a sex/porn addict without any warning? How do you navigate those first few months?
In today's episode, Patrick asks Kylene questions about her experience including:
What was going through your head the first 2 weeks after discovery?
What seemed to help the first few weeks/months?
What behaviors from (Patrick) did you find helpful?
What gave you strength through this?
When did you feel most vulnerable?
If you are a betrayed partner, you may related to how Kylene describes her experience. If you are a sex/porn addict moving through recovery, you may gain a deeper understanding about how the betrayed partner thinks and feels through this process.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Aug 21, 2024
Wednesday Aug 21, 2024
Can a spouse recovery from betrayal? Can an addict recovery? Can we actually live healthy lives?
These are some of the questions Kylene's client Katherine* experienced after discovering her husband was hiding a secret sex addiction.
After doing some of their own work and then coming to Kylene for continued healing work, Katherine is here today to share their story of redemption and healing.
Their story is inspirational, I know you will find encouragement in this episode!
*Names changes for anonymity
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Aug 14, 2024
Wednesday Aug 14, 2024
HOW do I make a decision about my marriage after betrayal? I feel stuck?
After we have experienced the pain of betrayal, it's normal to feel scared and overwhelmed. Kylene walks you through some things to think through as you work through this decision as she normalizes the ups and downs of the recovery and reconciliation process.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Aug 07, 2024
Wednesday Aug 07, 2024
Can I just read books, listen to podcasts, and navigate recovery by myself?
Humans are designed for connection and community is often what helps us feel more grounded, more safe, more secure, and it even has positive benefits for our mental health. All things that ultimately benefit recovery whether you are a betrayed spouse recovering from the trauma of discovery, or a partner navigating recovery from sex/porn addiction.
In today's episode, one of Patricks personal mentors joins us on the podcast as we discuss the importance of connection and mentorship through this journey.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Jul 31, 2024
Wednesday Jul 31, 2024
Betrayal is incredibly traumatic and painful. Recovery as an addict means feeling difficult emotions. When a couple commits to the process, will it ever be worth it?
Today, Kylene and Patrick share some of the benefits they have experienced by really committing to recovery every step of the way and how facing your fears can ultimately provide some of the best growth you experience in life.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Jul 24, 2024
Wednesday Jul 24, 2024
What does it look like to CHOOSE healing?
What does it look like to express empathy to your partner?
Patrick answers these questions and shares why choosing healing and expressing empath to your betrayed partner is important as part of your recovery journey.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Jul 17, 2024
Wednesday Jul 17, 2024
Working through recovery as a sex or porn addict can feel overwhelming, especially at first. You might wonder, can I DO this? Can I ever be truly free?
Today, Patrick shares 5 healthy mindsets to help you succeed through recovery!
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Jul 10, 2024
Wednesday Jul 10, 2024
This is part 5 of a series where we share tools and resources to support you as you move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery.
These tools can be used to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors, sex addiction, porn addiction, or other.
In this episode we discuss how and why group support and 1:1 coaching or therapy is so helpful for both the betrayed partner and the addict to experience deeper healing.
1) Find a CSAT in your local area https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357
2) If that's not possible, find a CSAT or sex addiction therapist or coach that works virtually (here are some starting places)
www.puredesire.org
Additional resources: https://www.drpatrickcarnes.com/getting-help
3) Connect to a local recovery group (we like the conquer group that you can find locally or online both at puredesire.org and soulrefiner.com
For the betrayed spouse:
1) Connect with a trauma therapist or coach who is familiar with sex addiction and works with betrayal trauma recovery - look for someone who also has trauma processing modalities outside of talk therapy
If you are interested in working with Kylene please click this link and book a free connection call to see if it’s a good fit:
https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
2) Connect with local, or online groups:
Cosa
Sanon
Betrayal and Beyond - puredesire.org
Infidelity survivors anonymous
www.btr.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Jul 03, 2024
Wednesday Jul 03, 2024
Today is part 4, of a 5 part series on daily tools and resources to use to move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery.
These tools can be used to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors, sex addiction, porn addiction, or other.
In this episode we discuss the benefits of journaling, how it helps bring awareness to patterns, assists in recovery, and benefits long term health.
5 year journal: https://www.levenger.com/products/5-year-journal?variant=42537377136789&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwpZWzBhC0ARIsACvjWRPLxW3dd9gRHKOhIMUvdJJ-Q-JuSmVDLe1ShxmyVT2Hckvo5LYVR8kaAm-hEALw_wcB
Daily Kairos Journal: https://dailykairos.com
The First Hour Journal: https://www.thefirsthour.com
Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Book your free discovery call here:https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Wednesday Jun 26, 2024
Wednesday Jun 26, 2024
Today is part 3, of a 5 part series on daily tools and resources to use to move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery.
These tools can be used to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors, sex addiction, porn addiction, or other.
Many of these tools are created or inspired by Dr. Ted Roberts who created the Conquer Series which we highly recommend. You can purchase this resources or join a group at PureDesire.org
In this episode we discuss creating the 3 circles of sobriety and recovery to further help you define who you want to be, what you non-negotiables are, and what your personal goals are moving forward.
Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Book your free discovery call here:https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Kylene Terhune
Kylene Terhune is the CEO & Founder of the Phoenix Transformation Project where she works as a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner and NLP life coach supporting women who have experienced sexual betrayal trauma.
She helps her clients with a unique, whole body approach that involves the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual aspect of the individual. This work includes functional lab work, nutrition, lifestyle, emotional work, nervous system support and more to assist women in feeling more complete, grounded, safe, independent and confident in their health and in their bodies.
As a successful functional health coach for 6 years Kylene has received additional education in trauma and it’s impact on the body and has additional experience with somatic work and nervous system support, emotional work and habit change.
She also has certifications in NLP, NLP life coaching, QTT and hypnosis and her missions is to guide women as they step into their whole authentic self post betrayal so they can embody their full potential and God given purpose.
Patrick Terhune
Patrick Terhune is graduate of West Point Military Academy and spent 8 years in the army flying Blackhawks and working as a mechanical engineer. Since then he has led a successful career as a plant manager, moving several times until landing in Ohio where he met Kylene. He continues to participate in recovery work himself and now leads several recovery groups locally to support other men in the area.