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Wednesday Feb 14, 2024
Wednesday Feb 14, 2024
Navigating holidays, romantic dates, and really any significant date or experience the first year of recovery can be so tough. How can we navigate romantic holidays and especially valentines day and anniversaries is a common question you might be facing.
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick offer 3 suggestions for ways you might choose to celebrate days like Valentines day after you've discovered betrayal due to sex/porn addiction in your relationship.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Feb 07, 2024
Wednesday Feb 07, 2024
What is my responsibility as the betrayed partner and as a believer to confront my husband about his porn use?
This is a question Kylene received in her RecoverU Facebook group for betrayed partners.
Patrick and Kylene answer this questions and Patrick shares his perspective about hitting the 3 year in recovery milestone.
Resources from todays episode:
Books:
The Great Sex Rescue: https://a.co/d/dDTq7dp
So You are a Believer: https://a.co/d/2MxGpVf
Untwisting Scriptures: https://a.co/d/bGeJGFc
Untwisting Scriptures Patriarchy & Authority: https://a.co/d/8bsaDEn
Resources for freedom from porn and sex addiction:
www.soulrefiner.com
www.puredesire.org
Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Click this link: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Free FB group for betrayed wives: www.facebook.com/groups/RecoverU
Wednesday Jan 31, 2024
Wednesday Jan 31, 2024
How do I know when to stay or when to go? Is divorce the end of the world? Should I reconcile with my partner? How do I know what the "right" decision is?
In today's episode Kylene shares her personal story as two examples of when divorce was absolutely healthy and why, and when reconciliation was healthy and why. She hopes that by sharing her personal story and by breaking it down for each relationship (one that ended in divorce and one that stayed together) that this may help you more clearly articulate these answers for yourself!
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Jan 24, 2024
Wednesday Jan 24, 2024
Can I trust someone who has cheated on me?
Honesty is one of the biggest sticking points for a betrayed partner - its absolutely necessary in order to rebuild trust and safety in a relationship.
Honesty requires personal conviction order to "stick". Someone has to personally believe and accept that it's really important in order to change their behavior if they have a history of deceitful behavior.
Is this possible? Absolutely!
If you want a healthy, reconciled and repaired relationship, honestly and integrity go both ways. There shouldn't be any secrets between life long partners.
Listen to todays episode for Kylene and Patricks personal experiences and thoughts on honesty.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Jan 17, 2024
Wednesday Jan 17, 2024
Have you ever noticed you can feel "off" around someone? Or maybe it's more noticeable when you spend time with someone you gives you energy...
Humans emit different frequencies, so that "vibe" you get from people is a real thing! Authenticity is the most powerful and most attractive frequency humans emit. And this happens when the inside matches the outside. When what we say and think matches what we do.
Recovery from sex/porn addiction and betrayal trauma is so more than accomplishing sobriety and no longer having triggers every day. Recovery helps us learn the and skills we need in life to live in authenticity. We get to step into lives of integrity as we heal.
Jump into this episode to lear more!
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Dec 20, 2023
Wednesday Dec 20, 2023
Recovery is one of the hardest things you will go through whether you are the spouse recovering from betrayal trauma or the spouse recovering from sex/porn addiction. Is reconciliation and recovery worth it?
In todays episode, Kylene and Patrick share 5 things recovery has given them as they close the year 2023 and come close to hitting their 3 year mark in recovery together.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Dec 13, 2023
Wednesday Dec 13, 2023
Painful, difficult, and overwhelming emotions are a natural part of recovery (and life!) It's important that we have tools and resources to navigate them safely and when we don't react in the healthiest way, that we engage in retroactive self reflection to helps us as we continue moving forward.
In todays episode Kylene and Patrick share their personal experiences with this as well as leaving you with the encouragement that difficult emotions coming up don't mean that anything is wrong but instead, its important to listen to them soy can continue to move forward in your healing.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Dec 06, 2023
Wednesday Dec 06, 2023
Every has stories that they tell themselves - lies we subconsciously believe that impact how we think, feel, and live life.
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick identify some of the most common lies and how we can reframe our thinking, and choose a different path to begin living into.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Nov 29, 2023
Wednesday Nov 29, 2023
How do I know sex addiction isn't all about sex?
How do I know he really loves me?
How do I know I can trust again?
How do I know my sex/porn addict husband is really in recovery?
Patrick and Kylene share their personal story as well as generalized answers to these questions to help you feel secure and confident in your own recovery journey as a betrayed partner.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Nov 22, 2023
Wednesday Nov 22, 2023
Are you a recovering sex/porn addict who is scared to go to therapy? We get it!
Meet Charles Roberts, one of our TaraHope coaches, and Patricks former recovery therapist! In today’s episode we share Charles’ focus on the compassionate model of recovery and why compassion, empathy and support through recovery is so important.
We would be so honored if you consider supporting us with a donation to TaraHope to directly contribute to the scholarship of a betrayed partner! If you haven’t already listened to the episode where we introduce Tara Hope Alliance please listen to episode 38!
www.tarahopealliance.org/donate
The mission of TaraHope is to support women experiencing and recovering from sexual betrayal trauma. We do this by providing education and resources as well as connecting them with, and paying for, practitioners who guide and assist them through the recovery process so that they can lead happy and fulfilling lives again.
We pair betrayed partners with highly qualified practitioners and coaches to guide them on their recovery journey and for the next few weeks we are spotlighting the coaches.
Please consider joining us on our mission whether it be through prayer, donations or even sharing an episode with someone who might be interested.
Learn more at www.tarahopealliance.org and consider donating at www.tarahopealliance.org/donate
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Kylene Terhune
Kylene Terhune is the CEO & Founder of the Phoenix Transformation Project where she works as a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner and NLP life coach supporting women who have experienced sexual betrayal trauma.
She helps her clients with a unique, whole body approach that involves the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual aspect of the individual. This work includes functional lab work, nutrition, lifestyle, emotional work, nervous system support and more to assist women in feeling more complete, grounded, safe, independent and confident in their health and in their bodies.
As a successful functional health coach for 6 years Kylene has received additional education in trauma and it’s impact on the body and has additional experience with somatic work and nervous system support, emotional work and habit change.
She also has certifications in NLP, NLP life coaching, QTT and hypnosis and her missions is to guide women as they step into their whole authentic self post betrayal so they can embody their full potential and God given purpose.
Patrick Terhune
Patrick Terhune is graduate of West Point Military Academy and spent 8 years in the army flying Blackhawks and working as a mechanical engineer. Since then he has led a successful career as a plant manager, moving several times until landing in Ohio where he met Kylene. He continues to participate in recovery work himself and now leads several recovery groups locally to support other men in the area.