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Wednesday Sep 13, 2023
Wednesday Sep 13, 2023
If you are a betrayed spouse and have ever asked the following questions, this episode is for you!
What do I do when my husband is deleting everything and turning his life over to God?
What do I do if I think my partner has an addiction but I don't have proof?
How do I navigate D-day anniversary or wedding anniversaries?
In this episode, Kylene and Patrick and your questions, and share practical tips to take immediately after discovery (like listing access to technology) and remind the couple not to spiritually bypass the steps it takes for long term recovery. (for more on spiritually bypassing recovery please see episode 23).
They also share their personal story as well as perspectives for you to consider when navigating these questions yourself.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Sep 06, 2023
Wednesday Sep 06, 2023
Have you ever found yourself the position to ask the questions: I just discovered my husband texting other women - what do I do? Or, I just discovered infidelity, what do I do next?
Getting connected to helpful resources quickly can make the biggest difference in recovery for BOTH partners. Patrick and Kylene talk about how to approach this situation when it comes up in your relationship and below they have included links to their favorite resources for both individuals to get started on their healing journey!
For addict:
1) Find a CSAT in your local area https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357
2) If that's not possible, find a CSAT or sex addiction therapist or coach that works virtually (here are some starting places)
www.puredesire.org
Additional resources: https://www.drpatrickcarnes.com/getting-help
Boulder Recovery (2 week recovery intensive)
Beginagaininstitute.com
3) Connect to a local recovery group (we like the conquer group that you can find locally or online both at puredesire.org and soulrefiner.com
www.samsonsociety.com
4) Read books and listen to recovery podcasts:
RecoverU podcast
Pure Desire podcast
Pure Desire book by Ted Roberts
Clean by Doug Weiss
Unwanted- Jay Stringer
For the betrayed spouse:
1) Connect with a trauma therapist or coach who is familiar with sex addiction and works with betrayal trauma recovery - look for someone who also has trauma processing modalities outside of talk therapy
If you are interested in working with Kylene please click this link and book a free connection call to see if it’s a good fit:
https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
2) Connect with local, or online groups:
Cosa
Sanon
Betrayal and Beyond - puredesire.org
Infidelity survivors anonymous
www.btr.org
3) Ready books and listen to recovery podcasts:
RecoverU podcast
Pure Desire podcast
Intimate Deception. Sheri Keffer
Facing Heartbreak - Stephanie Carnes
RISE- Misty Terrell
Wednesday Aug 30, 2023
Wednesday Aug 30, 2023
Why should I go to therapy or do any healing work when this is my husband's problem?
Almost every betrayed partner has had that thought shortly after discovery. In today's episode, Kylene shares 3 reasons that a betrayed partner should actively engage in her own healing, even though she wasn't the one that did anything wrong and how that can help her individual healing as well as the healing of the relationship (should you choose to stay).
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Aug 23, 2023
Wednesday Aug 23, 2023
I just discovered my husband looking at pornography- what dod I do?
The importance of connecting to safe, effective, and knowledgeable resources right away after discovery is invaluable for both the betrayed partner and the sex/porn addict.
In this episode Patrick and Kylene discuss effective resources and include the most common links they recommend using to get started below.
For addict:
1) Find a CSAT in your local area https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357
2) If that's not possible, find a CSAT or sex addiction therapist or coach that works virtually (here are some starting places)
www.puredesire.org
Additional resources: https://www.drpatrickcarnes.com/getting-help
Boulder Recovery (2 week recovery intensive)
Beginagaininstitute.com
3) Connect to a local recovery group (we like the conquer group that you can find locally or online both at puredesire.org and soulrefiner.com
www.samsonsociety.com
4) Read books and listen to recovery podcasts:
RecoverU podcast
Pure Desire podcast
Pure Desire book by Ted Roberts
Clean by Doug Weiss
Unwanted- Jay Stringer
For the betrayed spouse:
1) Connect with a trauma therapist or coach who is familiar with sex addiction and works with betrayal trauma recovery - look for someone who also has trauma processing modalities outside of talk therapy
If you are interested in working with Kylene please click this link and book a free connection call to see if it’s a good fit:
https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
2) Connect with local, or online groups:
Cosa
Sanon
Betrayal and Beyond - puredesire.org
Infidelity survivors anonymous
www.btr.org
3) Ready books and listen to recovery podcasts:
RecoverU
Pure Desire podcast
Intimate Deception. Sheri Keffer
Facing Heartbreak - Stephanie Carnes
RISE- Misty Terrell
Wednesday Aug 16, 2023
Wednesday Aug 16, 2023
Have you been wounded by your pastor or church after you went to share your story of discovery? Has someone said something insensitive to you and your gut told you "this isn't right" but you felt conflicted because it came from someone inside the church?
In today's episode, Kylene walks you through several truths that most churches won't tell you when you walk into their office and ask for support after discovering your husband is a sex or porn addict.
Kylene wants to empower in your faith as well as in your recovery by openly discussing the things you need to know after discovery.
For a PDF copy of 10 things the church won't tell you about pornography click here: https://mailchi.mp/2e8ade60994f/ebook
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Aug 09, 2023
Wednesday Aug 09, 2023
Do Kylene and Patrick have the perfect relationship? Are couples in recovery always happy?
In today's episode Kylene and Patrick open up to share some of the struggles they still have as they continue to navigate the day to day reality of recovery after betrayal.
While sharing personal stories and examples, they also share the self reflection, the frustration of putting in so much work only to hit a bump in the road, and remembering that your ultimate happiness shouldn't be completely dependent on your spouse.
They share how conflict can help you level up, and the lessons they learn as they move through these experiences together.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
For partner betrayal resources including:
The What's Next course for betrayed spouses right after discovery
The Phoenix Transformation course for betrayed partners looking for 1:1 emotional processing, coaching and trauma work (Kylene currently only works with women)
"10 things most churches won't tell you when your husband is looking at pornography"
click this link: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Aug 02, 2023
Wednesday Aug 02, 2023
What the heck is human design and how can it possibly relate to recovery?
Human Design is a tool to help you understand yourself and those around you better. In this episode Megan specifically shares how understanding your human design and that of your partner can help you communicate more effectively!
To connect with Megan please follow her on IG @itsMeganBarrett
If you would like to watch her free training: How to break through fear, doubt and worry using your unique human design click here: redemingrootscoaching.com/training
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Jul 26, 2023
Wednesday Jul 26, 2023
Is it possible to love my spouse after betrayal? Can we have a marriage that is happy and healthy again after sex/porn addiction and all the pain he's put me through?
In this episode, Kylene shares the deep pain she experienced when she felt the spiritual disconnection form Patrick after betrayal and her personal journey with the question is falling in love again possible after you go through all of this?
She and Patrick discuss their journey of reconnection while navigating the reality of betrayal and recovery together.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Jul 19, 2023
Wednesday Jul 19, 2023
What role does my faith play in my recovery journey? Can depending on my faith as the only resource actually hinder my long term recovery?
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss the concept of spiritual bypassing which is the idea that someone uses spirituality and faith to bypass deeper work required for transformative healing.
As Christians, Kylene and Patrick believe that God often uses faith in combination with tools, resources and community on earth to effectively transform the heart and mind of the individual.
Learn how inadvertently avoiding this work might damage recovery in this episode!
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Wednesday Jul 12, 2023
Wednesday Jul 12, 2023
Do you ever feel like you can't seem to communicate your thoughts effectively to your spouse? Or maybe, you think you communicate well, but feel frustrated that they can't seem to understand you or hear what you're saying?
Communication is one of the primary struggles that married couples have. This disconnect can be amplified tremendously after betrayal when pain and emotions are high.
Today's episode is part 2 of Kylene and Patrick sharing tips that are immediately applicable for you and your partner to begin improving your communication TODAY!
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
Kylene Terhune
Kylene Terhune is the CEO & Founder of the Phoenix Transformation Project where she works as a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner and NLP life coach supporting women who have experienced sexual betrayal trauma.
She helps her clients with a unique, whole body approach that involves the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual aspect of the individual. This work includes functional lab work, nutrition, lifestyle, emotional work, nervous system support and more to assist women in feeling more complete, grounded, safe, independent and confident in their health and in their bodies.
As a successful functional health coach for 6 years Kylene has received additional education in trauma and it’s impact on the body and has additional experience with somatic work and nervous system support, emotional work and habit change.
She also has certifications in NLP, NLP life coaching, QTT and hypnosis and her missions is to guide women as they step into their whole authentic self post betrayal so they can embody their full potential and God given purpose.
Patrick Terhune
Patrick Terhune is graduate of West Point Military Academy and spent 8 years in the army flying Blackhawks and working as a mechanical engineer. Since then he has led a successful career as a plant manager, moving several times until landing in Ohio where he met Kylene. He continues to participate in recovery work himself and now leads several recovery groups locally to support other men in the area.