RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Betrayal Recovery, Porn Addiction Recovery, Relationships, Infidelity

In today's episode we answer questions ranging from how we met to how we navigate conflict, and how we help each other through tough times. We have included the questions with a link below in case you would like to use them in a conversation with your partner! 
 
Questions in today's episode: https://tinyurl.com/9kjca7m9
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
 

It’s always easier to identify negative patterns in someone else. In today’s episode, Kylene shares four common patterns that can show up in both the addicted partner and the betrayed partner — but in different ways:
Qualifying and Comparing
Using Absolutes like “Always” and “Never”
Looking Outward Instead of Inward
Dehumanizing Thoughts or Behaviors
While these patterns may show up very differently, we can all get stuck in them from time to time. In this episode, Kylene discusses healthier, alternative choices you can make to move your healing forward.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
 

In today's episode, Patrick shares four ways a recovering addict can show up for their betrayed partner while demonstrating consistency, sincerity and healing:
Make an effort to understand
Focus on your own healing 
Practice your responses
Don't seek her external validation
We often mention the "Help Her Heal" workbook and encourage you to utilize the exercises within the book while personalizing them for your own relationship. Purchase help her heal here: https://a.co/d/6WvocpH
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Erin Stretar (pronounced Streeter) shares three powerful tools she recommends to all her clients navigating betrayal recovery in this week’s RecoverU episode.
Discover how journaling, self-soothing techniques, and building a strong support system can empower your healing journey. Erin provides practical tips and real-life applications you can start using today!
Learn more about her work and connect with Erin at estretartherapy.com
 
As you are setting up your support system, if you have family or friends who want to learn more, we have 2 episodes you can share with them to give them a basic understanding of your experience and what may or may not be helpful to say to you both:
Understanding and Supporting the Betrayed Partner: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/51-understanding-and-supporting-the-betrayed-partner/id1674653111?i=1000646231313 
 
Understanding and supporting the Addict Partner: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/52-understanding-and-supporting-the-addicted-partner/id1674653111?i=1000647371472
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In this episode, Kylene and Patrick walk through how to use a polygraph (lie detector test) as part of recovery, reconciliation and trust building after betrayal and discovery.
 
Some questions they answer are:
Why use a polygraph?
How to find a polygrapher
What to look for in a polygrapher- interview questions to consider 
Best practices for creating questions to be asked on the polygraph
If you are in Ohio or willing to travel - we recommend Dan Forman for polygraph services: https://www.ohiopolygraphservices.com/about-the-examiner
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Congratulations to Patrick on 4 years in recovery! I'm so proud of you.
In this episode, Kylene briefly shares what it feels like to be hitting the 4 year mark of recovery together, and why the intense and purposeful effort they made has truly been worth it.
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
 

Divorce feels similar to being widowed. You've lost your partner, you've lost the life and the future you thought you had, and you experience a significant amount of grief.
 
Divorce after betrayal can feel isolating and overwhelming. This is why Kim Hansen Petroni has written her workbook: "Not a Casserole Widow" to provide education and cultivate self confidence in betrayed spouses pursuing divorce.
 
Learn more about divorce after betrayal, and how Not a Casserole Widow can help you feel more empowered and less alone in today's episode.
 
 
Connect with Kim: www.notacasserolewidow.com or, https://www.coachinghope4u.com
 
Buy the book: https://a.co/d/0FvPXuL
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
 

Life can be stressful on its own, but navigating recovery after addiction and betrayal adds layers of tension, overwhelming emotions, and uncertainty. In today’s episode, Kylene and Patrick explore how the fruits of the Spirit can serve as a powerful self-reflection tool to guide growth and healing in your recovery journey.
By focusing on cultivating love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control, we create a foundation for lasting transformation. Let’s dive into these characteristics and discover how they can support you on your path to recovery.
 Join us as we reflect on what it means to live the fruits of the spirit after betrayal.
Galation 5:22-23
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against things like this.
 
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Is there a difference between sobriety and recovery? Is recovery just a longer version of sobriety?
 
In this episode of RecoverU Kylene and Patrick share their perspective on the differences between sobriety and recovery and the type of actions and behaviors it takes to move into a life of recovery, and ultimately freedom, after a life of sex or porn addiction!
 
 
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Galatians 5:22-23 says, "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control." 
 
3 Circles Recovery Exercise: https://puredesire.org/blog/tools-for-healing-three-circles/
 
Patrick Carnes 30 steps to Recovery: https://www.kavodrecovery.com/the-30-tasks.html
 
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
 

Feeling stuck and not sure how to move forward? 
 
In today’s episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss choosing who you want to be so you don’t stay stuck in 2025.
 
They provide five practical tips and actionable resources to help you align with your values and vision for the future. Their approach emphasizes digging deeper than surface-level goals, empowering you to define your identity and who you want to become as you move forward.
 
 
List of core values: https://simplish.co/blog/core-values-list
 
Visioneering book by Andy Stanley: https://a.co/d/5ew37Np
 
 
Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Book your free discovery call here:https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
 
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
 
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 
On IG: @KyleneTerhune